Hi Bee

Thanks for the welcome. Yes my mother is still alive and I am so sorry you had a hard time with your mother too. Its tough going.

Tanya - no it certainly isnt easy bringing all the abuse up again - I have had psychotherapy in the past some years ago now but I wasnt ready to face up to it all - now I am and I am ready to start the healing process. I am still in touch with my mother but on my terms only and I see a faint glimmer of respect from her for that - something I have never had from her and never had from her saying she was sorry about anything.

My neice is staying over our house tonight, she needs a break, she is 12 same age as my daughter and they are having so much fun. My neice has had a tough rough time with her mother but she is safe now and away from her.

Anyway, thanks all.