I saw my T for 9 years and then did not see her for 9 years before seeing her again. The second set of years when I saw her was full of our remembering "back before" and discussing situations from both sides; what I thought/felt and her amazement that it was like that for me (I was pretty closed down the first 9 years, did not really profit from therapy, other than it helping me keep my head above water, until the second set) and she'd tell me things she had noticed and I would be pleasantly surprised.