As others have said, cause he is flawed. He is seriously messed up if he doesn't love his own child. [I Disagree] no more flawed than over 50% of parents

[I Agree] An innocent child who is having difficulties especially. Know there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Take my comments for what they are, by no means am I superior in academia world, nor "highly educated psychologist" .

What I can say is we push away the things that are a challenge to our expectations. We all want the easy road, but the best child. Who can be showcased as top notch without care, love, forgiveness. (TOO MANY DON"T WANT TO DO THE WORK) We want to care for these children, ours especially, but when they take an "over" allotment of time and energy....we push them away.

By merely pulling them in close (time in), giving them what they "need" or "require" to have a chance at success....we find the polished beauty within the agregate of the relationship. A child, our sons and daughters....If we choose to live for them, not with them...a perceived challenge becomes normal and we can love to learn about each-other.

I have not stumbled across this from my success as a parent, it was gifted to me by my wife who follows (google)beyondconsequences (Heather T. Forbes LCSW).

I also have found peace in the work of Russ Harris, "The Reality Slap". This brings change from the inside as Professor Paul Gilbert, PhD who authored "The Compassionate Mind".