I kinda get what you're saying. When I'm feeling depressed and confide in my friends, they want to help but wind up saying things that just annoy me more. The crazy thing is I want someone to help me but whatever people say is not what I want to hear. There is no magic answer. I don't know what I need to hear either but the only person so far that does not say the usual annoying stuff is my T. Somehow he knows when to just listen and what to say to comfort me. I feel like I need comforting so bad. Someone who understands is the most comfort of all.