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Open Eyes · 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by pachyderm

But not all "professionals" are healing, either.

Yes, this is true, unfortunately. Not all T's, have the "right" skills and with PTSD that stretches back to child abuse, it is important to have a T that not only understands what is called "complex PTSD" but is also experienced with treating it. Sooo important because a T has to understand that a patient will be angry and confused, and the patient feeling "safe" with the T is very important.

Now that I am at a point where I understand it so much better myself, I can definitely look back and see the errors some of the T's made with me, things they missed and how they misunderstood me.

I do my own research too V, and I talk to my T about what I read too.
T's, learn from us too, and so it is important we understand that "therapy" is also about "team work".

Last night I happened to watch an episode of "Blue Bloods" and the story line was about a cop that killed someone because that person drew a weapon, and because he killed someone, he was "tramatized" and he found out that the man he killed set the situation up so he could "suicide by cop".

Well, during the program he was sent to a therapist to make sure he was not developing PTS that could turn into PTSD. And that scene was at the most five minutes and that therapist told him the symptoms and talked about "agression and the bargaining and running the event over and over in the mind looking for a different outcome". Now, after I experienced the ongoing trama of losing animals from my neighbor's dog, I broke down. I was taken to a psychward and I constantly asked for "rest and grief counceling". I was there for 9 days, and never once did anyone talk to me like that therapist in that program. No one talked to my family and told them I was experiencing PTS, and they also let my older sister come and visit me and "yell at me". It is really hard for me to look at my records, because they have everything I said in writing, and see how they completely missed "very clear red flags". I was finally sent home to an angry family(who no one talked to) and injured animals and had to go right back into "hypervigilant" mode. And "all" the warning signs discussed with the parents of Newtown as warning signs of behavior showing dangerous problems that need immediate attention , are all the stages I went through myself, but my family either ignored it or was mean to me.

So yes, there is still alot of "ignorance" even from those who are supposed to be the "professionals".
So it is important to do "research" yourself and ask questions to make sure "the professional that is supposed to know how to treat you, actually knows what he/she is doing.

V, I do respect the fact that you are "again" reaching out for help and are "trying". And that really needs to happen, because when someone is challenged with "Asbergers" or another disability, when they don't "communicate" we are often left only guessing and we don't actually "learn" from them.

When I watched the "response" to this latest Newtown trajedy, I saw alot of blaming and "ignorance" to be honest. And I am still seeing that. IMO, a young boy had needs that were not understood or met and he spiraled down into isolating himself, and most likely harbored a lot of anger that he "imploded and exploded". And IMO, when he found out his mother was going to have him "commited" and he was going to be taken out of the little world he had, he "exploded". Whatever "was" wrong with him, obviously, his parents didn't know how to really "help him" with. And there were most likely badly missed opportunities that he could have been helped but wasn't. And unless we learn how to see these troubled children, and "help them" we will continue to experience some of these tragic events when they "explode"in a way that we are totally confused and have ignorant explainations for, often may even call "evil acts".

When we ask for help, we also give others the opportunity to learn too. So it is important to remember, that yes, sometimes others will not have "the quick answers" we are looking for, and sometimes as we include others in our efforts to understand ourselves, we also actually teach others about our needs too. You have talked about what you have tried an felt has not yet helped you, well, you have to keep trying and as you do find things that help you, you can share whatever you learn with others. That is a "big deal" because as we do that, we also take away some of the "ignorance".
Open Eyes