Thank you Open Eyes and Leed. I've been telling him this for months, but he doesn't understand that you sometimes need to be tough to show you actually care. A friend of mine was a heavy drinker when we first became friends. After a few months I told him I couldn't stand seeing him harm himself in such a way and that if he wanted any kind of life worth living he'd better get help. I would help him get to rehab or counseling or whatever, but was not going to socialize with him any more. Seven years later, he's a successful yoga teacher and getting his Masters in social work helping at risk kids. He says he's grateful every day that I was such a ***** back then. He doesn't see me that way but he cleaned himself up just to spite me so long ago. And, I'm fine that he originally hated me for it. I was a much better friend to him than those who just let him get away with his bullsh*t.