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Originally Posted by purpledaisy
There is a thread about promiscuity and when I saw it, it was one of the few times that it hits me -- I haven't had sex since 1997. I haven't been kissed, held, or touched since 1997. I haven't been on a date, flirted with, had someone show even the smallest bit of interest in me, or had any type of relationship since 1997.
Usually I go through life without thinking about it at all.
When my son was very small, I used to think I would find "Mr. Right," get married again, have another kid or two, and have this great, strong little family and one day I would have a 25th wedding anniversary and other big milestone anniversaries, then have grandchildren and still be with the same man.
I kept thinking it would happen "someday," even though I didn't make any efforts to get out there and meet people.
Now that my son is grown and pretty much ignores me, the loneliness has hit me. I realized the other day, "Oh, crap. I was supposed to have found someone by now so I wouldn't be alone for the rest of my life."
For those of you who aren't in a relationship or married, do you think about it at all? Do you wake up every day thinking there is a huge void in your life? Or does it bother you that you're totally on your own?
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Just like the rest of the issues in my life, I'm always double sided on the realtionship deal (guess that's why they call it bipolar. hehe)
One side of me remembers how bad I've gotten screwed over throughout the years and says forget women, forget getting married, forget kids (why would I want another little bipolar me running around?). I'll just be a bachelor for the rest of my life. What does it matter?; I'm not gonna live past 35 anyway.
The other side has a constant need for affection, companionship, attention, and especially touch. I want nothing more than to be in a committed relationship, settle down, move in together, get married, have children, and be sittin out on the front porch in rocking chairs holding hands and watching the sunset when we're both gray and old.
Quite a conflict of interest, but what I deal with constantly in almost every aspect of my life.
I am sorry to hear you've been so void of human affection. I would never be able to stand that. I cant go 3 months without nearly losing my mind. Skin starts crawling, I feel itchy, and start getting impulses to engage in risky
sexual behavior.
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