"Some families do not allow boys into their daughters' rooms but girls are allowed into the boys' room. I don't understand the difference."

I’d like to share my opinion on this particular statement. IMHO I think most fathers remember what went through their minds when they were teenagers. If this is the case, then a girls’ father considers every boy a pervert until proven otherwise. And maybe the parents of a teenage boy think their son isn’t a pervert (well he is, and darn good at hiding it).

I don’t think simply educating one’s teen about the mechanical aspects of sex is enough. We’re taught that in school: penis in vagina and watch out for babies. Rarely have I heard a statement that urges parents to discuss the mental and emotional aspects of sexual intimacy. Are these variables simply overlooked because the emotions coupled with sex cannot be put into words? Try describing love to a teenage son or daughter, and don’t just send them a “love” poem from Hallmark. Maybe just discussing the mechanics of sex seems like an adequate way out of an already awkward situation discussion.

I don’t know. I’ve never had either discussing with my parents, nor do I ever expect to. I applaud those parents that have tried. But it is ultimately up to their kid in what course of action they take. I think it’s important that a teen has self-respect and integrity or no amount of “discussion” will stop an egocentric teen from doing what they want.

Everyone must learn what love means to them, and that comes from life experience. Then, and only then, will they begin to understand the intricacies of sexual intimacy.