Yes, I'm having a hard time watching my boyfriend struggle and not be able to help himself by enforcing healthy boundaries. I try to listen, but I get frustrated and reach my breaking point because my way for handling stuff does not work for him. So, I wonder why he confides in me. I, perhaps mistakenly, assume that he tells me about these things so that I can give him suggestions. I guess that I will try now to to just listen and hold off on the suggestions. It's hard to watch someone continually bang their head against a wall and then turn to you and ask you why you think they have a headache.