I can totally relate to this healed. As someone who always put everyone else first, learning to say no and learning that other peoples moods have nothing to do with me and it is not my job to make others happy; it feels weird to put myself first.

It feels weird for me to talk about myself for an hour because I am so quiet in real life and my mother always interupts me and tells me to be quiet that I just stopped talking about me or even to anyone because it felt wrong.

But we all go to therapy because we want to learn how to help ourselves so in a way we are not being selfish it is just self care something that most of us are not used to. So I try to think of it as helping ourself not selfishness. I think maybe we just need to alter our thoughts about it and try and be kinder to us.