I second getting rid of all the clutter possible in your house. I have a set of 4 glasses, plates, bowls, and silverware (one for each family member) and as little as I can without getting into trouble with my boys. A lot of people use paper plates/cups. I let my son's room and bathroom be a mess. My son does his own laundry. I tend to have a lot of boxed banquet meals. When I can't really do laundry I don't sort. Cleaning is generally done by my husband or cousin in-law.