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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
If he is a cheater and it's happened more than once like it sounds like please do not attribute this to addiction and/or his bipolar disorder. It has absolutely zero to do with it. I am bipolar and have always been faithful to my SOs whether it was a gf or a wife. Yeah I'm single now but both times it was do to their infidelity or need to be with others not mine.
He doesn't sound serious at all and he's using you as a play thing, as you say, a safety net. He wants to keep you stringing along and I get the feeling it's like just in case he runs out of other women to mess around with if you ask me. Why else would he not want to be with his soulmate? It makes no sense that he's calling you, texting you, won't let you go but won't have you all the way?
He's not worth it and he's playing a game that you don't need to be a part of. You fell in love quickly? Rarely does love that happens so fast = long term stability. The fires that start so fast unfortunately either burn out quickly or are full of explosions along the way in one way or another.
You need to walk away and if he's serious about getting better he will do it faster when you really cut ties off for awhile. If he is, he'll do that and you'll have a better man in the end, if not... you're free anyway.
I wish I had better news for you but it all sounds bad to me. My heart goes out to you *hugs*
~s4
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Ur right, I know that's exactly what he was doing, I mean I'm not trying to sound arrogant or anything but I was way too good for him to begin with...while we spent the last 15 or so years apart, I was getting my masters and buying and house and he was playing and spent a good while in rehab!! I say we fell in love quick cause we had the love long ago I guess...as far as the cheating, I've read a lot about bp and they are sometimes seeking out people who they feel will save them...I also Kind of feel that he had a sex addiction...it was just a roller coaster, so in love for three months, then a month of hell, over and over, I can't say I didn't try, and almost lost wverything I had, and he doesn't care, it's all my fault....I've been just ignoring him, he won't stop tho!! Thanks for the advice, I need to read it til I "get it"