hey. I am so sorry you are on the receiving end of this. My son has aspurgers. When my family went threw some of the crap it did we had an in home counselor. Upon talking to my H she did not realize we had 3 children. He never made mention of our middle child(w/ asp.) He never tried to have a connection w/ him. He wanted to sometimes but got very discouraged or angry becuase he was different. W/ T my H has seen what his attitude towards kids, our kids, have done to them. He tried liking what he likes, he tried devoting the same amount of solo time s/ him as he does w/ the ohter children. My son still aggravates him alot but he is trying. I have to tell my H when to stop, when to just listen, when to agree to disagree, not to fuss at him for samll things that are not really gonna make a difference. It is helping my son to feel more accepted. He is 13. This happened when he was 12. He didn't realize his dad felt that way. I have no intention of telling him.

Half the problem is w/ his dad. It is not that his son is flawed it is that his dad doesn't know how to deal w/ someone who is different. Just like alot of poeple do not, people you might meet, people your randomly run across, even people you have known for a long time. It is not anything against you. It is the comfortableness your dad feels w/ his abilities to be a parent and not knowing how to react and deal w/ things that are out of his comfort zone.