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Originally Posted by Rose Panachée
I agree that it probably would not be in your best interest to contact his parents.
All you can do is express your thoughts / feelings on the matter and then let it drop. Have you explained to your BF that you are concerned, and it affects you because you care and you are a team. Your BF is a grown up and has to take care of himself.
If it hurts you too much to see / hear what is happening, then (unfortunately) you'll have to distance yourself in such a way so you can manage things.
I wish the best for you and your bf  |
Yes, we've had so many discussions on this issue that I cannot even count them. I would have let this drop a long time ago except that he keeps telling me about every incident with the roommate. Now that my b.f.'s parents are in town (and have been for the last month), I'm even hearing stories from them. However, no one directly affected wants to address this guy. A decision was finally made that the roommate would sell his car in order to pay my boyfriend the rent. Duh...why did it take 4+ months to come to this brilliant idea? Arg...
It just has to be cultural...I cannot imagine that someone keeping my parents awake at 4:00 in the morning during a drunken binge and not paying rent would not get his head smacked (literally or figuratively).
I'm just perplexed that this guy can negatively affect so many people and I, the least affected, am the only one who has no issue confronting him....but, it's not my culture and not my house, so I've not done anything yet. But, I'm sick of hearing the stories....so my next step (which is passive aggressive, I know) is to just change the subject when it comes up again. If they ask why I don't want to know, I'll be up front...."If you ignore my suggestions and don't even try to come up with your own solutions, you've kind of lost the right to complain to me." Kind of like peope who ***** and moan about this country and then admit to not voting...!!!