I cried my way through most of 11 years of therapy, including in the first session. When I apologized and said that I never cry, my T said, "Maybe you need to." My T always reassured me that it was safe to cry. I've read that crying also indicates a desensitizing to pain; the catharsis of releasing pain through tears can be helpful.

My T made a choice to not touch me. We talked about it, and he felt it could be confusing to me. But we talked about other ways he could hold me--by being available and consistent.