Thanks tigerlilly - We are both seeing the same T together most of the time. This came up once before in T and he shut down and discussion didn't get to far. I called to T to let her know we had a tough weekend and that the computer subject came up again. Maybe it is time to revisit the subject. My trust level (of the T) is different now, as is his. We have T tomorrow. I know it is his insecurity.

He say's stay off the computer, I feel like I should obey. The T says a dog obeys, you command your children(it's wrong, you shoul ask, He commands) but you don't make your wife obey and you don't make commands and expect compliance of your wife or any adult.