You know, "mama" ~ you said that your husband can be 'glued' to his phone. How is that different that you being on the computer? How is his TV watching different than you "watching" the computer? How is his watching football all the time any different that you being on the computer? This man is SO behind the times, not only in technology, but in women's affairs!!! What makes him think he can CONTROL ANY WOMAN anymore? That went out with the women's right to vote!

So he " shuts down" when something comes up that he doesn't like in therapy. That must mean that he shuts down ALOT, doesn't he!! Because there has been ALOT that has come up that he hasn't liked. How in the world has this therapy been helpful as far as HE is concerned? How has this changed HIM at all? You say he has gotten a "little" better on some things, but hasn't he gone right back to his old behavior on some things? It seems to me that he has from what you've said.

I KNOW that therapy has helped you my friend. You are now stronger than you used to be. I hope this new found strength will help you choose the route in which you need to go. Your happiness depends on it. God bless and please take care. Love, Lee