I have to say, I don't know what he is complaining about. I have been following your story since you had a "live-in T", kind of, the one before this one who was there a lot more, wasn't that you? And from what I can see, you are really trying to still do things his way as much as possible. I can recognise that, I really wish he would too. Plus I can't believe you figured out how to do that and still be happy yourself - that is the major accomplishment. But you are taking one step at a time and not pushing for too many changes all at once. So as much as you think you need us, you are also providing a good role model for all kinds of change here, for married or single people to follow. So he may be a leader at his job, but you are becoming a leader here, and that is important to us your followers.