Fuzzy, if others misunderstand and don't read your explanations of what you meant that's not your fault. Your thoughts and suggestions are quite good. It is a fact that those who have been abused become the abusers. You weren't saying that ALL who were abused will become abusers but I'm sure some here fear they might (I did, that's why I didn't have children of my own!). But it's also quite true that one can't "help" or solve a problem if one doesn't recognize it is a problem. Those who abuse obviously don't recognize the problem. Those who are here do, just like you say, that IS why we're here; so the problems won't continue; either for us or for others around us.