Both ! He says he doesn't want money from me that he just wants to see me out of the house and he wants to see me being responsible. He asks what if he got sick or lost his job etc, what would happen to me. I know all he says is true and I feel horrible and then I try again with the best intentions in the world that this job I will do it, I won't be late, I won't call in, I won't quit...but then sure as the sun rises that day comes when I haven't gotten enough sleep (which is a huge trigger for me) or we have a fight and I get really depressed or I feel I'm too ugly and disgusting to even be in public (not true, but feel that way a lot) or I'm just plain down and want nothing more than to crawl in the bed and sleep off my vulnerability....then I call in to work. And then I'm anxiety ridden the next shift and procrastinate on getting ready and end up late which then causes more anxiety and after doing this enough times that I'm too ashamed to even go to work at all anymore, so I quit. I always get so much relief in calling in or quitting a job its like I can breathe again...for a few hours until the guilt settles in and then...well you get it. It's a cycle. To be honest I'm really lucky that he still loves me at all and hasn't left me..