Does it mean we live through it and don't die? Does it mean we move past it? I adopted a child out of severe abuse and neglect. Her parenting was difficult as she never let me give affection, always reacted like a victim. She moved in with a very abusive boyfriend and his abusive family in July of last year. And came home in June of this year. Only to take our truck and be missing for 15 hours before we called police and she called me.

She has not been heard from since. She is back there. She says she can make her own decisions. She is mildly retarded. Her birth sister used and abused her last week and neglected and abused her toddler in front of my daughter. Is this what we have to show? Patterns continuing?

Did it make any difference her time here? I have enjoyed her so much these last few months and now I am just plain angry and hurt beyond words. So it is Nature vs Nurture huh? Kid leaves me stuck with her yellow lab, due to be fixed the 27th. She has made no contact.

I can't do this again. I want to scream and cry and mourn. Back to where the treatment and control are comfortable for her.

Why, she has not survived? On her own, as a parent she would be great but if she becomes a parent in this family it is another child doomed to abuse. I can't take it.

I survives? What, I lived to try to make it better for others and this is what happens? I think I shoulda stuck in my shell on the mountaintop and let no one in. I am so hurt and angry. With little hope for the 19 year old. and none for the 19 month old