Night, it seems as if T quickly becomes the 'bad' mother and taking breaks is perhaps a way of trying to escape the 'bad' mother and find the 'good' mother on return.

It's if you know the 'good' mothers there but the 'bad' mother is so overwhelming you have to take a break rather than work through it for fear T will not be able to demonstrate the abilty to be 'good'.

For those of us that didn't get 'enough' of a 'good' mother we are susceptible to any change in T. You felt good talking about little you and you wanted T to convert that into something concrete ie the hug. But it quickly turned 'bad' when he spoke and broke the 'good' you were feeling??