Unfortunately, this is the role that I have assumed for most of my life. I'm fairly logical and don't have any major issues avoiding confrontation. I usually address bad situations up front before they get larger and am fairly well-balanced when weighing various options (typical Libra). The boyfriend almost always takes my advice in the long run, but it can sometimes take such a long time for him to get there that the stress/anxiety plays out longer than it should.

Our typical pattern is that I reach my breaking point and yell at him to take my advice or leave me out of it. It's only after this point that he appears galvanized into action. It's stressful that it plays out this way, but this is what it seems to take...my getting pissed off and raising my voice.

His parents also seem to let others take advantage and manage to stay quiet until a crisis breaks. Culturally, I was always taught to speak my mind....but I think things are different for them.

But, subconciously, I probably pick people like this to have in my life....I'm not sure of the reason, maybe to give me purpose? When I've dated men who are more in control, I end up feeling controlled / trapped by them...I also feel as if I don't have anything to add...yes, I know...typical co-dependent behaviour...Just not sure how best to change this since it's been ingrained since childhood...!