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Originally Posted by elliemay
Your therapist, in my opinion, can do very little to repair the relationship. He can never be perfect enough to fix this. Each little mistake will certainly evoke that feeling of betrayal. That work to forgive has to come from you.
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I really think T did everything he could on his part.
And I forgive him for the mistakes of last year, truly, deep down.
I just realized that I am always going to be on guard, waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's not his fault, or mine. It's my history, and a bad year, and a few too many mistakes, and an ongoing situation that just is what it is.
I think when I thought I quit last summer and ended up going back, there were still some big things I needed to work through from everything that went on. And I was right - T didn't really "get it" until September - but when he finally did get it, he GOT it. And then he worked so hard to repair the damage, and I love him for that.
I absolutely trust that he cares for me and wants me to not be hurt.
I just had to do this for me.
