It could be one of two things: 1) she was just trying to be supportive 2) the stats are of REPORTED suicidal ideation and people might have a tendency to grossly underreport it. Plus, the 1% you are taking about is for planning, "An estimated 2.2 million (annual average) adults in the United States (1.0% of the adult U.S. population) reported having made suicide plans in the past year. " and she talked to me about fleeting ideation. There is an order of magnitude difference between ideation and planning. There is also a discreet difference in treatment - people with plans go inpatient and people with ideation stay home, by and large. Finally, even those who plan suicide underreport it, especially those who have serious plans.