I hope your counseling session tonight helps and lives up to some of your expectations.

I would continue to work on myself though, my depression and things I would like for myself instead of for others or from others. Unless we know ourselves, who we are and what we want, we are destined to be knocked about from others "out there". What you feel about your wife's actions is primarily about you, not your wife's actions. I would focus on your own thoughts, feelings, and actions relative to your own life and then see how how things progress with others after I was comfortable controlling that.