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Malady156 said:
surviving abuse means you don't become an abuser yourself.

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I like this definition quoted above.



wisewoman, it's not your fault your daughter chooses to live a life of pain. She don't sees herself worthy of love, respect, and tenderness. She is attracted to the abusive hard life because it masks her shame.

You cannot fix or rescue her. You can only love her and let her make her own adult mistakes.

Pain is supposed to teach us how to better ourselves. If she doesn't hit her bottom because there is someone to catch her fall all the time, she hasn't learned the consequences of her actions and choices.

I'm sorry you have to see her fall. I know it's painful to see a child hurting.

Please don't allow yourself to become victimized from your daughter's actions. You deserve love, respect, and tenderness from her. Please demand no less.


Pain is not entirely a bad thing. My past pains have taught me to be a wonderful parent. I'm sure you are too. (((((wisewoman))))))