You're very welcome. I am glad I didnt offend.

By no means did I want to imply that for the breakdown of the marriage that she bear the entire burden. I am one that's been around the block with marriage and knows that it takes two to make it either work or fall apart in both cases.

And indeed I was afraid that this would pass without her ever even facing that she is accountable for any of it - especially the affair. I see far too many cases where people say "if you only loved her more she/he wouldn't have cheated" and I was afraid that was how you felt.

Glad to hear more clearly what you're thinking and I am glad you understood me.

I wish you much luck in this and if you need a friend to lean on and talk to I'm here.

~S4