Backstory:

I am actually very happy with my girlfriend in a general sense. But we/I/she is struggling.

My girl has gender issues; she is male to female transgender. She also has some pretty severe trauma in her past - in fact, she found her father after he committed suicide.

Now generally when I experience trouble in relationships, that would be it - but we love each other so much (and it's a progressive, willing-to-work-and-talk-it-out, more adult love than I've had before).

She has anger issues. Not in the sense that I'm ever in any danger, but she gets so mad - and I believe it's a combination of our poor communication skills due to our histories, and the fact that she is technically still pre-surgery. She has had reconstructive surgery for breasts, but not her main surgery as sadly it is not covered here - we can't afford it. So, she remains stuck inside a body she feels is not hers. I love her as she is; It doesn't matter to me if she EVER changes fully. But I know she's not happy.

However - she's not had much luck with therapy. She's saying that therapy won't help - and why should she bother. I've said she needs to give it a real chance - and that even if she goes and SAYS "I don't think this will work, and I'm not sure why I'm here" there is potential for it to help (because I believe a good therapist WILL be able to help her even work through that, and identify the things she can work on.)

I am not interested in forcing her to do anything. I want this to be her choice, but I also want to empower her to see the value that is potentially there. So - I'm wondering about tips on how to argue with someone that therapy can be good - minus the "Arguing' lol...if that makes sense. I think as a product of her poor experiences, and maybe of her underlying anger, she's just not able to see how it could help.