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Originally Posted by mazing
Anger is a normal emotion - and it is ok to be angry. It is just important that you try to find healthy ways to express that anger. I would really suggest trying to talk to your T about it. Then you can work together to find safe ways to express your anger.
If you don't feel you can do it in person does your T allow email? That could be a good way to put it together and say what you need to say without having to worry about getting angry with her. If you could explain what happens when you are angry she would then know what to expect. Most therapists understand and expect that clients will at some point become angry during therapy - it is natural - but if you can give her an idea of what would trigger your anger, what it looks like when you're angry and what you would want her to do when you 'explode' then it will probably help her to help you.
Good luck  |
I don't know why I never thought about emailing these thoughts to my t. I did, and today I talked with my t about it. When I went to session I was in an off mood and was fearful of the possible discussion. But my t was very considerate and let me know that it was good that I shared my feelings and that she would be respectful of how I wanted to approach talking about when I was little. I did start to get angry feelings when we were talking, and I switched, but I didn't feel like I wanted to get in her face. I expressd my anger in words and tone but didn't feel like I would get out of control. Today was the most time I have allowed myself to talk while feeling such anger. We also discussed my feelings that, for me , seem to come out of nowhere. I will suddenly have intense feelings of fear and sadness and anger for no apparent reason. My t suggested that I might be having emotional flashbacks. I didn't even know that emotional flashbacks existed. I have just been on line reading and that is what I am going through. I always feel like I am losing my mind because I will suddenly be overwhelmed with fear or sadness. Debilitating fear and sadness without a reason, unconnected to anything that I am aware of. Learning more about Emotional Flashbacks makes me feel that I might be safe. That there may be a real reason for them and that I am not losing my mind. I want to thank you for your advise. It helped me in a very positive way.