Yea my mom and i were very sketch with each other for quite awhile. The way it came about i guess is that my brother was really quite a pain in the butt when we were little, and not that i wasnt either, i cant let him take all of the credit *wink* but he was the one to push her buttons, and when she got mad, she would literally yell and scream at both of us. She got right in our faces. As a result i cant take loud sudden noise or people getting in my face, hands, face, arm, etc.

What i ended up doing is going to counseling. I went by myself, and she always wanted to know what was going on and what i was talking about but i never told her. Eventually she got the idea into her head that it was her, and yes, a big part of it was her, but it wasnt all. Finally my therapist scheduled a meeting with both of us, and we started talking some stuff out, and the therapist talked to both of us separately. She started working on controlling her anger and things got immensly better.

Now that i am in college, our relationship is the best it ever has been, since i never see her, when i do, its like the sun comes up in her world, for some reason.

Perhaps you could try and do what i do. Sometimes getting a third party involved really helps.

"grasp the air between your fingers and try to hold on"