Lots of good therapy has helped me. Reading various books and forum posts on what other folks have gone through helps too, as does reading various theories about what makes us tick and what to do about it.

Getting angry has helped me at times. Reclaiming myself, believing in myself, being determined to live, all has helped immensely.

Finding ways to be resilient also helpful. I still struggle, I still have some major challenges, but living as well as I can has been the best revenge for what was done to me as a child and teen.