I don't think that's right. I think for some people, expressing anger physically is terrifying and you should never be pushed into it. I understand why you can't shout at home--I do it in my car, sometimes!

I got mad at someone at work today and I am second-guessing myself and whether my reaction was "appropriate." The rational part of me says I was brusque and probably clearly mad but totally socially appropriate. The emotional, traumatized part of me is thinking I must have seemed like a crazed banshee.

T has been telling me I have to practice expressing it and getting "too" mad so that I can figure out what "mad enough" is. It's taking every ounce of my being not to quit on him and shut all this away forever.