I don't know if what I have to offer will be helpful or not, but I'll share my thoughts and experiences anyway.

My relationship with my current (and 3rd) therapist will end at the end of this month because, for reasons that are irrelevant here, he cannot help me anymore. He gave me a referral list of about 10 psychologists. So my first point is that if you are interested in seeing somebody, maybe you could get a list from somebody. Secondly, shop around. I have called all the T's on the list and several applauded me for "shopping around." I am asking for an initial consult to see if we gel and can work together. Hopefully I will be able to find one in a list of 10.

I have already met with one of them, and she presented an analogy that I thought was very valid. She said that if a person has diabetes, they have to make changes in order to live. They can't sit around and wonder why they should have to make these changes when no one else has to. While there is no cure, there are changes they can make that will improve the qualify of their life.

My current T thinks that one can recover from depression. I don't believe that for myself, but it makes sense to me that I need to do things and make changes that healthy people don't have to do, or that comes naturally to them. Now, do I follow through? That's another story. It is SO hard to do the things I supposedly need to do. SO hard.

So I want to encourage you to do the things you need to do to improve the quality of your life. We are here to offer you support even when you feel you just can't lift a finger. We will care for you anyway and not be judgmental.