MandiePoo,

I am sorry to hear that your girlfriend is dealing with such traumatic memories. I can understand her desire to leave her past in the past, rather than try to work through things with a T. It takes a lot of strength and courage to face those horrible images and feelings again!

I have heard that gender transformation won't be done until the prospective patient has gone through psychological tests, to be sure that they'll be able to handle things well. Has your gf had that testing done?

I would assume that your gf is undergoing hormonal treatment ~ which can certainly add to the intense emotions that she's fighting. I would advise you to look into T's in your area that specialize in transgender issues. Print up a list of possibilities to show your gf.

Perhaps she will be more accepting of your suggestion (in seeing a T) once she sees the list of various T's that specialize in the issues that are currently triggers in her world.

Best wishes to you both ~ take care!