I'm sorry you are going through this. Hopefully a T will be able to help figure out what some of the main issues are, and teach him some ways to calm himself down. I would imagine he does not like feeling angry all the time. It might be helpful to ask him if he likes to be angry all the time (do this when he is not agitated and when you have tome to sit down and talk). I'm guessing his answer will be no. Then talk about things that help you when you are angry. Maybe counting back from 10. Rubbing a special stone, that he can keep in his pocket. Praying a simple prayer (like the serenity prayer). Jumping up and down as high as he can. Ripping apart a thick phone book (takes lots of energy) or cardboard boxes like soda boxes. Maybe punching a specific pillow (this is best for those with non-violent tendencies and who haven't been exposed to violence, and I think is better for girls because they are less inclined to punch other things). Hope that helps some. The rock worked best for my nephew because his problems were more in class and it was something he could have with him everywhere, not just home, but it sounds like some of the other techniques might be more effective for your son.

In the case that he does like being angry, ask him why, usually power related, and definitely go over it with the T.