1. BS: you can work through only what you know. Some people just never remember all of the trauma.
2. Perhaps
3. Also BS

I am Christian, but a counselor who says you can only do therapy the "Christian" way frightens me as being dogmatic and devisive. How about having your personal therapist talk to the Christian counselor about how this is potentially harmful to both you and perhaps your marriage for such a hard line to be taken?