"Coping with Emotions", ok, what does that really mean? How on earth do we do that", take a warm bath?, take a nap? treat ourselves to a glass of wine? What is anxiety anyway?

Well, the reason "why" people experience "anxiety" is because they begin to somehow lose a sense of control, they have emotions about whatever it is they are challenged by, and they try to surpress these emotions, instead of "recognizing them" and validating what they mean.

A person can go just so long with "surpressing" that after a while, they have so many "surpressed emotions" that they get "overwhelmed" and that always tells the brain, "RUN' because something is wrong. And it begins to build up cortizol and we experience an "anxiety attack". Or, the "fight instinct" kicks in and ANGER comes into play which fills us up with ADRENELINE which is energy that pumps us up with, READY FOR ACTION to defend ourselves.

OK, so we begin to ask, how we can better gain "control" again right?

If we have anxiety, we begin to hear "methods" we can use to help us learn how to "distract" our brain from the "build up of so many overwhelming problems" that the only thing it can do is produce cortizol to "get away". Ahhhh, but if we distract our brain into "slowing down" and just having one calm, slow thought, guess what? Well, the brain begins to "let go of producing cortizol" and we do slowly begin to relax.

And when we have a build up of "anger" which produces "adreneline" we can learn to do an "activity" that burns off the adreneline, and at the same time the brain begins to focus on that and slowly lets go of the anger.

The problem with this is, while we can learn how to help ourselves deal better with these emotions that present a challenge to our brains, unless we also address the "sources" of this build up, we will only be again "surpressing" the cause with "no resolve".

Even if we take some kind of "pill" to help us deal with these "chemical" overloads in our brains, unless we actually "work on the causes" we will not get the kind of "release" we need that actually brings a sense of "better mental health".

So, it is important to "recognize" emotions and allow yourself to consider the "source" of whatever is "causing these emotions to take place". And whatever that is needs to be "validated" and worked through, UNTIL YOU GAIN A SENSE OF CONTROL over the "cause".

HUMAN BEINGS ARE DESIGNED TO PROBLEM SOLVE IN ORDER TO SURVIVE AND THRIVE.

HUMAN BEINGS ARE ALSO DESIGNED TO FIND WAYS TO GAIN A SENSE OF PERSONAL CONTROL and when we do that WE FEEL EMPOWERED TO CONTINUE ON.

WHEN HUMAN BEINGS LOSE THEIR SENSE OF CONTROL THEY BECOME OVERWHELMED WITH A SENSE OF PERSONAL FAILURE.

WHEN THIS HAPPENS THEY SEARCH FOR ANY WAY THEY CAN FEEL ANY KIND OF "SENSE OF CONTROL" and SOMETIMES THAT IS IN WITHDRAWING INTO NOT INTERACTING AT ALL. Hense, we call this DEPRESSION.

Paying attention to our EMOTIONS is very important to "thriving", it is HOW WE ARE DESIGNED. Being "ashamed" or "afraid of emotions" is not being fair to "self". When we have emotions we need to "recognize it" and work on a resolve to whatever it is that makes us feel these emotions.

This is exactly why "therapy" is so important. And it is "crucial" that whatever "therapist" we have is someone we feel "safe" with so that we can open up "emotionally" and finally have these "surpressed and confused emotions" expressed without "shame, guilt, or feeling that we are wrong by having these emotions".

When a process of "validation" begins to take place, that is finally the beginning of "healing". The one person we all must learn to understand and respect is "ourselves".
The pathway to gaining a healthier sense of self is to "recognzie how human we are and the significance of our personal sense of control and understanding our own emotions".

So, the overall "goal" in "Coping with emotions" is not about SURPRESSION, but to pay attention to them, see why they are taking place, and allowing ourselves to find a way to "resolve the source" so we don't have to continue having to "surpress".

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