Sunrise - Regarding your question, "what current behavior do you have that is causing problems for your husband and yourself?"

I honestly don't know the answer. I've asked him and he says that I live my life controlled by fear (presumably because of past traumas). But in reality, I don't live in fear - I act appropriately now when he is angry and off the wall with rage. I don't allow it in my presence anymore, so it may be that his comments are really disguised anger at me getting stronger. His interpretation is that if he cannot be allowed to rage around me, there is something wrong with me. I think that is pure BS, to quote Chris.

I appreciate the comments and feel more secure in my decision not to undergo the treatment with the Christian counselor.
Bub