A little back story... My husband moved in with my family 3and a half years ago when his father remarried and moved. he was working part time after just graduating college. I got pregnant soon after. We stayed with my parents to save money for a down payment on a house.

My hubby and I have been toying with the idea of moving 3 hours away where it is more affordable to live, at first my mother was supportive because she wants us out, but now idk.

We had a talk the other day that of course started with "your father and I marvel at how far you've come, we never thought you would be able to do all the things you have done in your life..." But then goes on to say that she thinks we should stay close because who will take care of me. Who will be there when I have a breakdown. She thinks my husband will never understand my needs. Basically like she's afraid I'll kill myself of something. She is right, my husband doesn't understand fully, but I know we can work on that. It's like she needs to be needed, but she has been so hot and cold with me my whole life and our relationship has been rocky for many years.

Well today I talked to my manager about transferring to a store upstate. She was supportive and said we will talk to her boss soon about it. So it may actually happen.

When I mentioned to my mom I talked to my boss, she sighed really loud.. She roller her eyes and was like well I guess you made your decision then and walked away. I don't think she understands that H and I will be struggling pay check to paycheck living in a sh***y apartment struggling to make our bills if we stay here...

Thinking about what she has said I feel pulled in two directions. One is that I think she is right I'm always working, worrying about hubby and my son and pushing away my demons and my moods not taking the best care of myself, I'm due for a complete mental breakdown... Maybe she is right.... How will I take care of a house and my family if this happens.

The other part of me thinking a maybe I just need to get away, start my life with my family... A clean slate so to speak.

I suppose I should add I have suffered from separation anxiety from my parents since a little girl and my mother is the root of my abandonment issues. I am excited about our choice to move until I think of my parents and how I won't see them every day.... Then I panic.

Insight please? Can I make it on my own?