You cannot control life. You are given the child you are given, and as a parent you are obliged to love the child and help to the best of your abilities.

A child is not a doll to show to to he outside world, like See what a pretty, clever and sane child I have. A child is a person and if you are into designer babies think this.

You have bipolar. Bipolar has a much, much stronger genetic factor than AS. You scrutiny the father's genes, what about your own? Now I'm not saying bipolars shouldn't have kids, but I do not understand your worry about AS. AS people can be completely lovely. Both me and my brother (Who is HSP, which is sometimes seen as the non-pathological side of AS), I am AS/ADD, we were nice kids. We were natural rule followers, honest and not too rowdy. All AS kids are not like this, but all of us weren't disobedient and wild.