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Old Jan 18, 2013, 01:38 PM
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Originally Posted by shezbut View Post
Have you tried letting your bf into your circle in small dosages? Slowly peeling the layers on top of yourself off? Does he know any of the issues that haunt you, or is it all secrets that you hold inside of yourself?

I can relate to not letting you bf get too close ~ kind of like dangling a carrot in front of him, to keep him interested enough to hold on. I have done that same thing for a very long time. The guilt and shame on that issue tears me up inside, as I feel like a complete B!

Do try to let your bf in on some of the things that you're struggling with (not all at once). You could start by saying that you've been through a lot, and that you're working on getting past these issues. Later on, you may feel more safe, and you may decide to share the fact that you tend to push those that your truly care for away (in fear that they'll push you away & you are afraid of being pushed away again). And so on. Little by little, let your bf inside.

Hugs and best wishes sent your way...
Yes I've said that I've not really been in a good relationship but not in details.

But he went to make some stupid joke the other night. About something on tv and I told him that my first boyfriend at 15 use to beat me up and emotionally abuse me. He tried to find out more but I cut him off I want ready to share all the details with him .

I have thought about telling him about my BPD and that I getting help. But yeah I'm to scared he push me away first
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