Mxchick, to reply directly to the title of your thread, the sad truth is HE IS NOT CRAZY ABOUT YOU! You need someone who is. I will tell you a story.

I have excellent dark chestnut hair. I have always liked it though to this day I cannot style it and I have no patience for blowdrying.

Many years ago I was very much in love with an older man. Twice my age or so. I was in my twenties. He was married with a lovely wife, five years older than him, and wonderful children. His wife had stunning looking silver hair, which she refused to color, accepting age gracefully. I do not know for sure what her hair color was before she turned grey but I think it was brown. Their twin daughters had light brown hair and other kids, dark brown. Nobody was blond.

The man reciprocated my feelings but very little was done about it because he was married. Plus, he was afraid of becoming attached to me. It was all horribly frustrating for me. When we parted, I stayed in california and he and his family left for texas, I cried. I wanted to at least see him.

It was very clear that he was completely crazy about me and thought that I was just totally awesome in all aspects.

This man did not happen to notice blonde women in my presence, but he talked a lot about some beautiful blonde women he had seen in the past.

I found it totally amusing. I let him speak about those blonde women to his heart' s content. And although we never discussed it, I think he appreciated that I was understanding and did not censor him. His wife and daughters would censor him even when he mentioned the physical beauty of an actress in a movie! But to me, it was a funny peculiarity. I knew very well that he was hopelessly attracted to me and would have married me in a heartbeat if not for his circumstances.

The point is, when a guy is crazy about you, it shows. When you know he is crazy about you and you are the absolute best in his eyes, you can, with grace, allow him to notice blonde women. After all, you do not believe you are the only gorgeous woman on Earth, are you? And you do not need to be the number one on earth to feel secure; all you need is to be the number one in his eyes.

And your mention of your not noticing other guys is completely irrelevant. I am not naturally drawn to noticing guys' looks at all. I know it is my feature. Everyone has his or her set of feautures. Some are tweakable and others immutable. I cannot eat spicy food but I am open to dating people who like spicy food. He is not required to have features that are identical to yours. This is in regards to his losing his train of thought which was probably an uncontrollable reaction on his part and he is entitled to uncontrollable instant attraction.

However, if he notices blonde ladies on purpose, in a cold and controlled manner, and the purpose is to make you feel inferior, then he is a bad, mean person, and you need to run fast. I never felt inferior when the gentleman described above mentioned someone looking like Monroe; I always felt great and fabulous in his presence. If you do not feel fabulous, you need to cut the losses. ASAP