My abuser was a family member who I still see a few times a year. It's retraumatizing for me and sends me into a tailspin every time. I continue not because I want a relationship with that person, but because I think refusing would ruin my relationship with the rest of the family.

I know some people are able to forgive the person who traumatized them and come to see that person as different, years after the trauma. I do think it's possible (although of course the relationship is never the same as it was before the trauma).

What do YOU think?