I have been contemplating leaving my H for many years now. I don't know how much more I can take of his s***. I have put up w/ rudeness, OCD, control issues, I'm tired, I'm spunt, and I'm done. That being said I'm done but not stupid. I have copies of alot of our legal documents. I have a few more to copy w/ taxes coming up and all. I want to have a solid game plan before I just up and decide to leave.

I've got 3 kids. And child support is another thing that concerns me. I have not worked in 15 years. I don't want to rake the man over the coals and leave him w/ nothing to live off of. The government seems to do a fine job of that. I hate to see men struggle and not have groceries or rent money because the government has set this crazy rate for child support. That's not what I'm after. It is the father of my children for crying out loud. If it hurts him it hurts them. I would like to figure out something between us that is going to leave us both in a situation where we can have a life outside of one another. But I have no idea where to start and what factors to even consider. Transportation, housing, electric, phone, clothes, insurance, school lunches. If anyone has any advice to add please feel free to give me factors to consider. Thanks anyone who can help.