Thank you for your sympathy!

I was also going to offer you a perspective on randomness. Four years ago I was saved from a suicide attempt and I think I was meant to survive. But someone else here thinks it was a random event. So you can give events a special meaning or attribute them to chance.

It is good that you do not assign blame to yourself for your wifes emotional aattachment to someone else, which she ended. But do not assign much blame to her either. It may have been fairly random and opportunistic as in coincidental and being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Because she never advertised herself online beforehand as someone looking for an affair, did she?