Thanks everyone for all your thoughts. I'm sure some of you know what it's like to sometimes feel too exhausted to even think about leaving, but this too, I know, is one of his tactics (and there are MANY). I have made sure that anyone who knows me well and was willing to listen is aware of all that he says and does (including a therapist). It has been so intense at times that I have thought, "fine, if he kills me at least it will all be over". I wish there seemed to be more viable options for those of us who end up trusting the wrong person.