I'm new here. I don't know where to begin, but when I read your message it is familiar. I've been married about 3 yrs. 2nd marriage and it just isn't right. I'm constantly degraded, rediculed, belittled, and physically sometimes. My kids go thru hell. During one of the episodes, he called 911 and we go to court next week. NOW, he's acting totally different, probably for fear I have him by the b----. I know it'd go back to the same thing; but i'm lie you and wonder i'm i over exaggerating. My heart tells me i'm not, but the rest tells me i am. i do like to have a few beers, and that's what he always throws up to me. he doesn't want me to do anything. sometimes i think i do because i know it ticks him off. he wants me to lie in court, but i think i want to tell the truth and get him out.