Sorry for contradicting you, Bebop. Your advise is full of concern and sound, and many have said this to me also. However, if she leaves town with her kids, without concrete police evidence against him, he can charge her with kidnapping her own kids and have them forced back, thus setting a president for custody hearings. Also, if she leaves, with or without a restraining order, he can find her and hurt her from a distance.

Please, Waiting4Dreams, call the local abuse centre today and ask for help. I used to think like you and wish he would just get it over with, but when I was faced with death in my face, my thought was 'I want to live'. I moved forward because I couldn't stand the guilt of putting my kids through this and the thought of them seeing their mother in an ambulance or worse.

I promise you, that when this is all over, you will know greater happiness than you ever imagined possible. Freedom is such a wonderful feeling and can't be described to those who have never lost it. You are so much stronger than you realize. Take the steps away from him and do it now. You have dreams waiting for you. Don't ever give up.