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Originally Posted by Nightlight
Hi Milly. My T has forgotten quite a few things that were so important to me (even though she's usually very good at remembering everything). The forgotten things always felt so hurtful, particularly when I was relying on what she'd forgotten. From the years I've seen her, I've learned that her forgetting an arrangement is not the same as her forgetting me altogether. I know it feels like it must be about us, if they cared they would not forget something so important. It's really not that though, and forgetting to do something doesn't mean you're forgotten altogether and not cared about. I hope you're able to talk about this with your T and that it helps. I know it's tough.
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Thanks Nightlight. I appreciate this. You are right. I need to talk to him about it and the way I have been feeling towards him lately. It has been hurting me too much.
I think my feelings for him are derailing progress. I've been trying to manage this 'love', 'transference', 'crush' on my own for so long. When he forgot to do this particular thing that he offered, it hurt me way more than if a friend or family member forgot, for example. Of course with them I would have casually called and reminded them by now too, but...of course that would make me a nuisance to my T.
I was reading some of your posts and hope things go well for you at your next appointment. Thanks again for writing and for your insight. I erased my post just before seeing your response because I went back to re-read what I wrote and just got more upset. But your response really helped me feel better and understand better.
Milly